Loneliness Is As Dangerous As Smoking

While many of us may consider loneliness an isue mainly affecting older generations or those in extenuating circumstances, the problem is actually far more widespread in modern British life.

A study published in 2014 showed that British adults aged 18 to 24 are four times as likely to feel consistently lonely compared with those over 70. The recent emergence, and success, of apps such as Mush also highlight the effect of social isolation on new mums.

And new research now suggests that loneliness could become as big a public health issue as obesity and smoking.

Researchers at the University of Chicago and the University of California found that loneliness sparks your ‘fight or flight’ response. This decreases production of white blood cells, reduces your immune system, and increases inflammation in your body.

Here, with the help of the medical experts at
AXA PPP healthcare, we explore the definition of loneliness and tips on how to manage it.

What is loneliness?

‘The terms “loneliness” and “social isolation” are often used interchangeably, but are distinct concepts,’ explains Dr Winwood. ‘People can be socially isolated without feeling lonely, or feel emotionally lonely even though they are surrounded by people daily.’

Social isolation is an objective state that refers to the number of social contacts or interactions you have. Loneliness is more of an emotional state. While it is not in itself a mental health problem, the two are explicitly linked, with loneliness often the result of poor mental health or vice versa.

How to cope with loneliness

If you feel lonely, following the tips below will help you get started and move in the right direction:

1.       Making new connections is arguably the most obvious way to combat loneliness, but it can really help. Joining a group or class you are interested in will increase your chances of meeting like-minded people to make friends with. For example, joining an exercise club is a great way to socialise and can give your mental health a boost. Increasingly too we are turning to the internet for companionship, with community groups existing in almost every niche interest group you could imagine.

2.     Be more open. If you have a fairly big social circle but don’t feel truly close to any of them, the underlying issue may be that you need to open up more. Letting your friend or acquaintance in on your vulnerability or honest opinion can help to deepen your connection with them.

3.     Stop comparing yourself with others. The desire to ‘keep up with the Joneses’ is not a new one, however the rise of social media has exacerbated the problem by giving people the chance to constantly compare themselves with their peers. If you’re already feeling lonely, the idea that everyone else’s life is more idyllic than yours can make you feel even more isolated and alone. This can lead us to ‘compare and despair’ – which only exacerbates our negative experiences. Remind yourself that people only share what they want others to see about their lives. Don’t form unrealistic expectations about life and friendships based on what you see online.

4.     Keep all lines of communication open. Having a chat with a friend or relative over the phone can be the next best thing to being with them. Or you can stay connected with loved ones online. Talk over Skype, exchange photos and keep up to date with the latest news from friends and family with Facebook or on email.

5.     Volunteering is also a popular route to meet people, improve your mental health and do good for wider society. You will not only give something back to your community, but it will also help you to feel more connected, involved and needed. There are lots of volunteering roles that need your skills and experience.

6.     Pride comes before a fall. Don’t be afraid to reach out to people and ask for help, companionship or just a chat. They may be feeling lonely too!

7.     Take it slow. If you’ve felt lonely for a while, or experience anxiety around new social situations, throwing yourself in at the deep end could exacerbate the problem. Instead, dip your toes into the water first by going to a local café or sports event where you are surrounded by people, and just enjoy sharing their company. Or try a class where you can dive into the activity itself to distract you from the pressure of introducing yourself to people straight away. With loneliness, slow and steady often wins the race.